Steps on the Grief Journey

Another Birthday

Yesterday was my birthday. It's kind of weird thinking that I am "this old". Yet, I have to say that I am feeling pretty good for a guy my age. I am declaring that I am moving forward. I am not going to let life's circumstances hold me back. I have learned a lot this...

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Griefshare

When my lovely Terry passed on Christmas eve of 2016, I was crushed and my life was totally changed.  We often hear about the several stages of grief, but I can attest that there is a constant onslaught of waves, not just stages. The onslaught and experience of these...

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I get by with a lot of help from my friends

My dear friends and family. Thank you. As you know, a week ago this past Tuesday, I had a right knee replacement. I am overwhelmed by the love and caring that each and every one of you has shown. This has been a perfect demonstration of community, love, and caring....

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Lean In

So, day before yesterday I had my right knee replaced. This followed my left knee two years ago. Going in, I had some familiarity with what was to happen. I must say that I was very nervous. Not for the surgery, but for what would happen after surgery. I can't stand...

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Happy Anniversary

Honor Your Wife October 22 - on this day, Terry and I were united as husband and wife.  After 45 years together, she got to go to Heaven, where God prepares a place for us.  As I reflect on our marriage, I have so many awesome, warm memories of our time together. ...

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Happy Birthday!

Happy Birthday to my wonderful wife. 10-18-1950. What a glorious day! For on this day, God sent you into the world! Who would know that 21 years later, He would unite you and I forever. Who would know that after 45 years together, you would get to go home to be with...

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Move forward

Today, someone who I have considered a friend told me that it was time for me "to get over it". That really threw me for a loop. After all, that was the first time that someone has said that to me. It really struck me hard, and frankly, it set off some very strong,...

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Sixth Stage of Grief

They say that there are five stages of grief; Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.   I haven’t gone through “stages” of this process.  Quite the opposite.  I would describe this, not as a process or stages, but more like waves at the ocean.  On many...

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I Am the Lucky One

Fathers Day, 2018. I am the lucky one. I had a father growing up that was there for me.  We camped together as a family, we were in scouts together, he loved me, he disciplined me, he showed me, through his actions, how to be a man; how to love his wife, how to love...

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